Lessons Learnt in 2016.

Years, months, days and weeks are nothing but a definition of time. 12 months make one year. 7 days make a week. 24 hours make a day. 

Some days, we experience situations that change us in one way or another. On other days, nothing of real value happens. Life becomes a routine in some instances. However, when you sit back and think about what one year has done to you, you will realise that every experience had a lesson. Thereis a reason why we say , wisdom comes with age.

What have i learnt?

1.You are the master of your destiny.
I have learnt that you are the one who should determine how to live YOUR LIFE. You know what you want. You have dreams you want to achieve. Do not let people dictate you on how to live. Sometimes, you have to be strong and stand up for yourself so that you can live your life the way you want to.

    No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.
Gautama Buddha, Sayings Of Buddha

2. Happiness is a choice.

The world is a place of trials and tribulations.  Problems will always be there. That doesn’t mean that you should always be sad and depressed. Create your own heaven on earth. Do things that make you happy. Be optimistic. Keep the company of those who lift your mood. And whenever you are having a hard time, remember that it is only temporary.  Smile and be joyous with the little things.

    Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.
Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

3. Things do not always go as planned.

We make plans with confidence that we can actualize them. In reality, things don’t always go as planned. Be open minded about it. Let flexibility and adaptability be part of your character traits. Always keep in mind that Allah is the best of Planners.

    Even if things don’t unfold the way you expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. One who continues to advance will win in the end.
Daisaku Ikeda

4. Forgivess is important.

Learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you make. You are human. Sometimes you stray and do the wrong things. You are not the exception here. Other people will also hurt you. Learn to forgive them. This will help you in removing any negative feelings you might have for that person. 

    People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!
C. JoyBell C.

5. Live in the moment.

Always be present in your day to day life. Whatever happened in the past is history. The future is unknown. Take care of today. That is what you have. It is what matters most.

    Live today. Not yesterday. Not tomorrow. Just today. Inhabit your moments. Don’t rent them out to tomorrow. Do you know what you’re doing when you spend a moment wondering how things are going to turn out with Perry?   You’re cheating yourself out of today. Today is calling to you, trying to get your attention, but you’re stuck on tomorrow, and today trickles away like water down a drain. You wake up the next morning and that today you wasted is gone forever. It’s now yesterday. Some of those moments may have had wonderful things in store for you , but now you’ll never know.
Jerry Spinelli, Love, Stargirl 

6. Be mindful of your company.

The people you spend most of your time with will have an effect on you. Make sure that you choose a small circle of friends who make you a better person. Keep the company of people who have a positive impact in your life. Do not be afraid of removing any toxic person from your life. Not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life.

    Minimise your time with those who make noises instead of speaking what is good for your ears, else, they’ll attune you with balderbash. Maximise your time with those who will inject into your ears a soothing sound of wisdom, for they’ll set your mind on a sound reasoning path.
Michael Bassey Johnson

7. Nothing good comes easy.

You will have to put in extra effort when you want to achieve greatness in anything you do in life. Good grades come with hardwork. A good relationship is successful when two people refuse to give up on each other no matter the situation. Becoming your own boss means that you will have to take a lot of risks. 

    Very rarely do the best things in life fall into our laps; we have to work for them.
Emilyann Girdner

5 Quotes By The Classic Author, Jane Austen.

Jane Austen is one of my favourite authors. Although her novels date back to the 17th century, they are still relevant in today’s world. Here is a list of my favourite quotes.

  1. The person, be it gentleman or lady, who has not pleasure in a good novel, must be intolerably stupid.

    Jane AustenNorthanger Abbey

  2. There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.

    Jane AustenNorthanger Abbey

  3. The more I see of the world, the more am I dissatisfied with it; and every day confirms my belief of the inconsistency of all human characters, and of the little dependence that can be placed on the appearance of merit or sense.

    Jane AustenPride and Prejudice

  4.     My idea of good company…is the company of clever, well-informed people, who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company.’    ‘You are mistaken,’ said he gently, ‘that is not good company, that is the best.
    Jane Austen, Persuasion

  5.     Give a girl an education and introduce her properly into the world, and ten to one but she has the means of settling well, without further expense to anybody.
    Jane Austen

So what can you learn from these quotes? To begin with, it is important to have a reading culture. That is how one can gain knowledge. Reading novels enlighten you. They help you in diversifying your vocabulary. If you want to travel through places and time, my advise, read.

Friends are important in your life. You have to be there for them when they need you. Correct them when they are wrong. Give them a shoulder to lean on when they are despondent. Simply be a true friend. 

Change is inevitable. The world is changing. Human beings change too. Do not expect someone to have a consistent character or way of thinking. Always remember that.

Talking about the weather is a start to most conversations. However, small talk is something that hardly happens when you have good company. There are so many things to talk about other than politics or the pop culture. Gossiping is definitely a no-no when it comes to a good conversation.

They say when you educate a girl, you have educated the whole society. An educated girl who is ambitious and self driven will always do her best to become independent.

My last remark,go and get yourself a book by Jane Austen. If you love classics,i am sure that you will love this one.

Career Lady or Home Maker?

I think women should have choices and should be able to do what they like, and I think it’s a great choice to stay at home and raise kids, just as it’s a great choice to have a career

Will Schwalbe

“Women must stay in the house and take care of their families.” Many conservative societies hold this opinion. They are against the idea of  a woman who works to earn a living. The main reason behind this is the fact that the man is the provider. He is the one who is charged with the responsibility of taking care of the family’s financial needs. 

Today, i saw this post on a certain social media platform. The writer talked about how modern feminism has corrupted women. According to him, a woman is truly happy and content when she stays at home taking care of her babies. He also said that those who work like men are miserable deep inside.

Feminism? What does this word mean?

Feminism is a range of political movementsideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal, and social rights for women.[1][2] This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.

From this man’s point of view, women desiring equality with men is the cause of corruption. The question is, how  true is this claim?

I am not well versed with the various theories underlying feminism. From my perspective, the fact that women have to fight for their rights in various matters such as education  is proof of bad systems across the globe. 

Islam has liberated women. Women have  their rights which have been clearly mentioned in the Qur’an and Sunnah.A woman is allowed to work as long as she does it within the acceptable limits.

So,is the woman who stays at home happier than the one who works to earn a living? 

A woman is happy when she does what she loves. If working makes you happy then by all means work. If being a home maker gives you contentment,then go ahead and enjoy it. However,work should not be made a priority if it leads to family neglect.

I found that when women were able to act in line with their natural inclinations and ambitions-whether to work or stay at home-were genearally happy 

-Judith Warner 

I believe that the early  years of a child’s life are important in determining the kind of adult you raise. At this stage,maximum time should be spent in nurturing your kids. Some mothers today wake up before the kids go to school and come back home when they are  asleep . What psychological impact does this lead to? That’s a topic for another day.

The point is,it is not wrong for a woman to have a career life. However, it should not be at the expense of her family.

 

Relationships


And among His Signs is this that He created for you wives (spouses) from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are, indeed, signs for people who reflect.” (The Qur’an, 30: 21)

A relationship is a connection between two people. It is how they bond, how they talk to each other, how they behave towards one another . Relationships are the most meaningful part of life and love plays a major role in it.

I am not a relationship expert nor have i studied anything to do with counselling. However, from my interactions with people and from personal experience, i have learnt some important things that are necessary for building healthy relationships . 

Communication.

This is key in maintaining a healthy relationship. You have to talk to one another. You have to learn how to communicate with one another. Before anything else, there has to be clarity in what people are looking for in that relationship.At this point, you get to know if someone is interested in a longterm commitment or if they are looking for someone to pass time with.You need to be honest about what you want. Once you are on the same page,you should get to know each other on a deeper level . 

In any serious relationship, if you don’t gather your partner’s opinion before making a decision that impacts you both, you’re just storing up trouble for the future.

Cindy Woodsmall

It is  through communication that we can learn the likes and dislikes of our partner. We can know how someone views life and their opinions. Do you have major differences that can threaten your relationship ? Or are the differences trivial such that you are willing to overlook them? You need to discuss and be open to a person about who you are. 
If you are planning on getting married, you should talk about it beforehand. Does your partner want to get married? Are they ready? This is an issue most couples face. At times, it’s either the man who is not ready because of various reasons such as finances. On other occasions, it is the woman. Either way, people need to openly share their feelings about a situation . You have to talk about the kind of life you want to live. Whether or not you want to have children .Is there a disease in your family which is hereditary? What are your spending habits? Is he good at savings? You now get the gist of it. You need to have someone you can have an intellectual conversation with . 

Through the day, you also have to phone each other. Send a sweet message at a random time. If you are in a long distance relationship, then this becomes even more important. Have a long phone conversation and also video chat on Skype or any other avenue. Communication is essential.
Compromise.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

Henry Cloud

There will be times when you have to have mutual concession to solve a dispute. You will also have to accept standards that are lower than what you desire .  Can you accept a character trait that your partner possesses  that you cannot change? Your wife might not be skilled in the art of cooking. Your significant other wants you to become a stay at home mother.Your wife does not like the idea of long business trips that make you stay away from home for months.Many situations that are not of your liking may always present itself,the question is, are you willing to compromise?

Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys


Mutual Respect . 
Respect is a two way traffic. Respect your partner and you will  be respected. Do not disrespect one another by doing things that your partner does not like. When both of  you are  angry,you still have to show respect to one another and avoid arguing or saying things that might hurt the other person . Repecting your partner means you admire them and treat them in a worthy manner. Address each other in a respectful way. Value your partner’s ideas and thoughts. Listen to them when they are talking to you. Always be polite. If you had planned a date and you cannot make it on the scheduled time, be courteous enough to let them know. Hold the door for your lady. When your husband comes at home from work, stop whatever you are doing and greet them first .The same applies to men. As the saying goes, respect is earned and not demanded. You have to be respectful for you to be respected. It is one of the best expressions of love. 

Love is honesty. Love is a mutual respect for one another.

Simone Elkeles

Trust.

The idea of trust lies within the context of being faithful to one another. It is something that you build together as your relationship progresses. It is definitely absurd to trust someone you have just met. The more time you spend with your partner, the more you learn to trust one another. The other aspect of trust is that of being reliable. Your partner shows how much they trust you when they rely on you to do something. You, on the other hand, should prove that they were not wrong to place their trust in you. With trust comes the feeling of physical and emotional safety. Always remember that trust takes a lot of time to build and once broken, it is very difficult to regain.

Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.

Nicholas Sparks


Friendship.

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

Friedrich Nietzsche

The secret to a successful relationship is based on friendship. Your partner should be your best friend. When you are friends with your partner, you are able to talk about things that couples do not usually talk about. Let your significant other become your confidant.Find out your differences and similarities.You will most probably have a lot of common things which will strengthen your bond. Go on adventures together. Take some time to watch a movie that you both like. Hold hands and go for a walk. Work out together. Share a meal. Most importantly, pray together. Nothing strengthens a marriage like spiritual and mental connection. Gain knowledge about various things. Your partner should be the first person you want to share your good and bad moments with. That is friendship and it’s importance in a longterm commitment can never be over emphasized.

In relationships, everything is equally important. You cannot say that trust is more essential than communication or compromise. At the end of the day, all of them are essential and you have to work on your relationship with regards to the key aspects in maintaining a healthy relationship . And it all comes down to love.

Bittersweet Forbearance 

Narrated Abu Said Al Khudri: Some Ansari persons asked for (something) from Allah’s Apostle and he gave them. They again asked him for (something) and he again gave them. And then they asked him and he gave them again till all that was with him finished. And then he said “If I had anything, I would not keep it away from you. (Remember,) whoever abstains from asking others, Allah will make him contented, and whoever tries to make himself self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient. And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 24 Hadith 548

Patience must be the most important virtue that you can have.The nature of our being is that we are always in haste. We want things to happen as soon as possible . We want to achieve various things in life in the shortest time. Even the Quran itself attests to the fact that man has always been a hasty creature. 

Patience is not the ability to wait. Patience is to be calm no matter what happens, constantly take action to turn it to positive growth opportunities, and have faith to believe that it will all work out in the end while you are waiting.

Roy T. BennettThe Light in the Heart

What is patience? Patience is when you can bear the things that happen to you without getting angry or fretting about it. Our patience is tested everyday in various situations. When you wake up in the morning late for work,can you spare a few minutes to help a homeless person sitting by the roadside? Can you tolerate a rude person and avoid acting on impulse? What do you do when you do not get the things you have been praying for? You practise patience with the little tests in life so that the bigger ones can be easier to maneuver through.

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Apostle said, “The example of a believer is that of a fresh tender plant; from whatever direction the wind comes, it bends it, but when the wind becomes quiet, it becomes straight again. Similarly, a believer is afflicted with calamities (but he remains patient till Allah removes his difficulties.) And an impious wicked person is like a pine tree which keeps hard and straight till Allah cuts (breaks) it down when He wishes.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari – Book 70 Hadith 547

Narrated Ata bin Abi Rabah:

One thing with human beings today is how we discredit what other people are going through. Someone might have a problem in their life and as result end up suffering from some form of depression. Instead of offering emotional support, some people will say that the person is merely overreacting . “Mzigo wa mwenzio kwako kanda la usufi “;a swahili saying. You can never know the impact of a situation on someone’s life. The closest thing you can do is to empathize with them. In this case,both parties need to be patient with one another. If a friend is going through something ,figure out how they cope with it and what kind of help you can give. The one with an affliction should also be patient and find ways to deal with the problem at hand.

A waiting person is a patient person. The word patience means the willingness to stay where we are and live the situation out to the full in the belief that something hidden there will manifest itself to us.

Henri J.M. Nouwen

Life is hard and simple. A beautiful paradox. Your outlook on things will either help you become an optimist or a pessimist . You have the free will to choose how you want to live your life. Do you want to stress about every problem or do you want to be patient with the things you face in life? 

There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you, and there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.

Patience,however,does not mean that you should not do anything. Fate has something in store for us but we also have to work towards bettering our situation. If you want something,do everything in your power and means to get it. 

Why is patience so important?”
“Because it makes us pay attention.

Paulo Coelho

From the experiences i have encountered, i have noticed that patience leads to growth.

The world gives us PLENTY of opportunities to strengthen our patience. While this truth can definitely be challenging, this is a good thing. Patience is a key that unlocks the door to a more fulfilling life. It is through a cultivation of patience that we become better parents, powerful teachers, great businessmen, good friends, and a live a happier life.

Steve Maraboli

 Growth in self and growth in character. You learn how to see things deeply and from a different perspective. You learn how to be happy no matter the problems you have in life. You learn how to smile when you feel sad. You learn how to thank God for the blessings you have since others are in a worse situation. You learn how to take advantage of your situation and make the best of it . Patience is indeed a virtue like no other. “And Allah loves those who are patient.”

Social Media Cleansing

    I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.

Albert Einstein

The world today is a ‘global village’. Advancement in technology has improved the communication medium. People from different parts of the world can send messages in a matter of seconds. Various instant messaging applications have been made available to the public thanks to app developers. I mean, who does not have WhatsApp on their phones? Even the people who live in remote areas and the countryside have access to this technology.      

Technological progress has merely provided us with more efficient means for going backwards.

Aldous Huxley, Ends and Means

Back in the days, I remember how owning a cellphone was a big thing. Few people could afford that kind of a luxury. The rest had to be content with community landlines. 

 Like everything else, this technology that has apparently made the world a global village has also alienated people from one another.

Modern day slavery. How many times in a day do you log in to Facebook or WhatsApp? Why do you feel the need to check pointless notifications on your instagram feed? How many times have you forgotten to ‘live in the moment ‘when you were busy living it on Snapchat? Do you see my point here?

As the  old cliché goes,’fire is a good servant but a bad master’. This technology that is supposed to serve us in making our everyday lives a bit easier has enslaved us. We do not communicate well anymore. A group of friends will meet up in a restaurant and the first thing they ask for is the WiFi password. No chatting. Someone’s coffee gets cold as they are trying to capture the perfect shot. A snapchat worthy photo. We are so busy trying to showcase a life of perfection in our snapchat stories. We forget that we have to experience good moments and have stories that don’t have a 24 hours expiry period.

Innocent children  have their childhood stolen.  No more playing outside with other kids . Why would they when they can play video games? It’s not a rare occurrence nowadays to see a young child with a phone or a tablet. What kind of adults are we nurturing? Let kids be kids. Too much time spent on the television watching cartoons is detrimental to their psychological and mental state. To some extent,even the physical state. Moreover, do parents even check those cartoons the children watch? Some of them may misguide them but how will they know? It’s a childish thing and you would rather spend that time in a more fruitful activity, right?

What about the lack of ambition that the youth have? Is social media responsible for this? Some of the  youth of today do not want to pursue higher education.  ‘I will become a YouTuber or an instagram model’. 

People seeking  validation from strangers is another thing. The number of likes you get and views boost your ego.  You want to have as many followers as possible. You post a picture on instagram then ask your friends to like it. Someone easily gets depressed by an ugly comment by a stranger. Everyone wants people to see the edited parts of their life. They only want to impress. A society where public image is more important than self worth and character  has been created.    

Even the technology that promises to unite us, divides us. Each of us is now electronically connected to the globe, and yet we feel utterly alone.
Dan Brown, Angels & Demons (Robert Langdon, #1)

Although social media has caused some ills in the society , my main concern is the time spent on  social networks.  We are wasting precious time that would have been used in a more productive way.    

 We refuse to turn off our computers, turn off our phone, log off Facebook, and just sit in silence, because in those moments we might actually have to face up to who we really are.
Jefferson Bethke, Jesus 

When you are with your friends and family, have the courtesy to put your phone away for sometime. Talk about anything and everything.  Listen to other people’s ideas. The next time you are going for an adventure,  don’t worry about having a cool snapchat story. Live in that moment and enjoy it. Instead of spending a lot of time swiping through your Facebook or Instagram feed, read a good book. Plenty of them exist. These smartphones have made us believe that we are all good photographers.  Nothing wrong with taking photos of the sky and trees as long as you enjoy the walk. At the end of the day, do not be the kind of person who is glued to their screen and forgets that there is a real world out there. Forget the virtual world and make adventures. 

    We can’t jump off bridges anymore because our iPhones will get ruined. We can’t take skinny dips in the ocean because there’s no service on the beach and adventures aren’t real unless they’re on Instagram.

 Technology has doomed the spontaneity of adventure and we’re helping destroy it every time we Google, check-in, and hashtag.
Jeremy Glass

#technology #socialmedia #personal-essay

Beauty and Brains

There is no exquisite beauty… without some strangeness in the proportion.
Edgar Allan Poe

The cosmetic industry is making more sales nowadays than it did five years ago. Why is this happening? Mainstream media is on the forefront in this scam. Magazines portray models as the epitome of perfection. The perfect cheekbone,  ‘eyebrows on fleek’ ,fuller lips,  defined facial structure and dramatic eyelashes. These models are far from perfection. It’s all a scam. They have full make up on,  caked faces and the editing that the photos undergo is mind blowing. So despite of this knowledge, why do we women use these models as a standard of beauty? This is all a marketing strategy. So this is how it goes. Maybe you never used to apply as much make up as you do now. The make up frenzy is hitting the Internet.  More make up stores and brands keep appearing . You start putting on make up. It makes you look prettier. You are able to hide those dark eye circles and acne spots. You give yourself the illusion of a structured cheekbone and smaller nose. With time, you start realising that you have ‘imperfections’ that need to be hidden.  You buy more products. Tryout different brands. Your insecurities keep growing inside you. You start thinking you are ugly without the make up. And that ‘my friend, is very sad.

Another hype.  I would call it the MUA 

generation. If you are on instagram ,you know what I’m talking about.  The number of girls with a bio that has MUA (make up artist) keeps growing. It’s the in thing. Girls dream to become the best make up artist in town. Some even throw away their careers. Beat that face with make up. Try different types of brands.  Use artistry to come up with a different look every week. Make tutorials. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that it is a bad thing. But there’s beauty in moderation. I love make up too. My problem is how people have started to idolise this industry without even realising that they are falling into a pitfall. Selling make up is a business.  And the goal of businesses and corporation is to maximize on profits and minimise on costs.  Sometimes, companies use chemicals that pose a health danger but because of the ignorance of the masses , people still use them. The make up industry has destroyed the self esteem of many girls. Some even feel the need to undergo cosmetic surgery just to get the perfect face. For women of colour,  we are conditioned to believe that the shade of our skin isn’t right. And sadly, we believe them. This is not right. If you are a woman,  you need to know that being naturally beautiful is way better than make up pretty.  Bake that face with make up once in a while.  Most importantly when the occasion demands it. But do not forget that you are beautiful. Naturally beautiful. 

The society needs MUAs.  Yes it does. But you know what it needs more? Strong willed women. Women  who know that they are their own standard of beauty. Women  who dream so big. Women who can cause a revolutionary change . Women who are teachers and doctors. Women who give hope to young girls. Women  who can cause a positive impact in the society.  Women who can sit at the United Nations and make resolutions on peace and women  empowerment. The society needs strong women  for its success. It needs women who understand that inner beauty and wit is what matters.

#beauty #bodyimage #women

Happy ever after?

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Sometimes , I sit and wonder at this parable called life. What is life? It is not merely what constitutes human existence. It is something that forms part of the human existence and everything else relating to it. In our childhood years,  we read of fairy tales that all promised a happily ever after.  Cinderalla,  Snow White and Sleeping beauty all had a happily ever after. You are faced with a challenge in life and Prince charming is always there to give you a happy ending. Well,  in real life, it doesn’t work that way. We do not know how the book will end. But each chapter promises us something to look forward to. When you started kindergarten, the future did not matter at all. You were only focused on the present. Nothing was more important than what you were doing at that moment.  Life is beautiful. You are still young and innocent. Years passed. You are now ten years old. Your brain has developed.  The view you hold of the world keeps changing.  You start to notice that time is passing. You think about the latest video games and your assignments. After school,  you have to go to Madrassa.  Life is still promising and fun. Years go by. You have finished your primary education. Teenage hood. High school drama. Life is getting more stressful. Now , you are learning the ways of the world.  Life is not always a bed of roses. You start to realise that people wear masks and pretend to be other people.  You learn who is true to you and who is not. I mean, Mufasa was killed by Scar. Lion King was not for entertainment only. We learn lessons the hard way. Teenage hood is over.  Now , you are an adult. You have to be prudent in your life choices.  Life is getting harder.  Time is less. No more hanging out . Career life. Work.  Then mid life crisis . Ageing. Then it’s all over. Life was never a permanent thing. This world is temporary. We are all like strangers travelling through time.

The biggest question is, was it all worth it? After all those years,  can you say you lived a happy life? Will you be fulfilled or will you still have regrets when  you are old? This is why you should always do what makes you happy. The career you pursue should be something that you enjoy. The circle of friends you choose should motivate and enrich you. And your partner should be someone who will make it all worthwhile.  At the end of this journey called life,  it is the special moments and the experiences we collect like treasures that will make us content and tranquil. Do what makes you happy.  Be happy. It is your choice.

Carpe Diem

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Seize the day. Live in the moment. Wake up in the morning with positive energy. Give thanks to The Creator for giving you another chance to make it right. Everyday is a blessing. Do not let the past overwhelm you. Forget any mistake that you have done. You have been given another day to become a better person. A day to rebrand who you are. The future is unknown. But today can make a difference no matter how small you may think it is.

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Living in the moment means being completely present in what is happening around you. It is such an important concept in that even in Islam,  we are advised to pray each salah as if it is the last one. When you do that,  you are savoring every minute and hence better concentration and pleasure. When you live in the moment, it does not mean that you should not make plans for the future. You definitely need to know how you would like to lead your life. However, you need to avoid the pitfall of thinking a lot about it and thus missing out on what is happening . Meet with your friends over a cup of coffee, enjoy that moment fully. Be involved in the chit chat. When you happen to be outside in the morning, wonder at the beauty of the morning peace and stillness of nature. Take your time and feel the breeze as you listen to the harmonious singing of the birds.Have a moment of silence. Meditate. Admire the beauty around you. Give gratitude to your dear ones. Read a good book. Learn something new. Make new discoveries. Be generous. Talk less and observe more. Make acquaintances. Maintain your relationships. Have an enriching small circle of friends. Avoid procrastination. Try doing things differently.  Work on your weaknesses and strengths. Relax. Rest. Give your body a chance to renew itself and re-energize. Do you have a lot of undone tasks? Do not stress yourself. Start with one at a time. Do them well. Do you have a bucket list? Do you want to try out a new hobby,  then start it. Do not wait for the future. When an opportunity presents itself,  seize it. Take a nature walk. When it is dusk , watch the sun set. Tell yourself that you’ve done what you could today and be contented. These simple things that are ignored are the things we miss out on.We don’t enjoy life’s little pleasures then we later complain about the complexity of life. Life is simple and hard. A paradox. You have the choice to make the most of it. And it all starts with a day. Today. Make every moment count.

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